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Semi-Formal or After Five?
Asked by collegesatyr
This is a loaded question.
It depends on my mood, even then it depends on the person I’m with. I may be in the mood to bottom and once I’m standing in front of this person then all I may feel is “I want to be inside him, I wanna hold him, I wanna keep him safe and hurt him at the same time and nurture him and make him feel excited and a little scared and I wanna pound him till he’s screaming and whimpering not to stop cause the euphoria is overwhelming. I wanna be the one that picks him up and handles him, maneuvers him, pins him down or against a wall and forces him to go that little reluctant extra mile that he didn’t realize he wanted to do even though he thought he didn’t. I’m gonna be the one that makes him look at me waiting to see approval on my face as I throat fuck him and he looks at me with teary eyes and I wanna be the one using my body weight to slam into him harder as pin him down with one arm an hold his arms behind his back with my other hand. I have to be the one that cleans him up and showers and washes him long after I’ve had him resting on my chest covered in my sweat and after he’s clean and tired then I’ll be the one that holds him while he sleeps and I’ll make him feel safe and satisfied.
Then sometimes I meet someone that out alphas me, it doesn’t happen very often, but when it does it feels awesome. Cause yes, I love being a top and I love being in control. I also love being a submissive top or even a dominant bottom. Because of my build, mannerisms and cock size.. Guys put me in the top bunk by default and I don’t mind. I love it and all my exes have been bottoms to date. BUT I love getting fucked and pleasing a man as a bottom just as much. I’m 100 percent versatile even though in action I end up being mostly top, in my head and desires I boast and talk more about bottoming because I don’t get to be a bottom as much as I top… So it’s a bigger fantasy of mine to find someone that would not just want to do that for me, but naturally take over fluidly by his mere character and demeanor. In the end when I have sex, it’s not to get off, but to please the other person, either as a top or bottom or both. It’s about the physical connection I can’t have on my own and the bonus of an emotional during and afterwards. If I just wanted to get off, I can do that on my own just fine. I like fucking with a sense of loving, safety and affection while at the same time being aggressive, possibly violent, dominant, forceful but not disrespectful or violating, instead nurturing and caring. The difference between fucking someone’s brains out without much care for their feelings but afterwards and even at times and specially afterwards making them feel like a human being that is cared and thought off and appreciated instead of kicking them away feeling discarded and used like some do.
I’m good at pleasing and good at making people feel good about themselves physically and mentally. Whatever role I take it’s still gonna end with everyone being satisfied and happy. As far as what will happen? It all depends on mood, specific dynamic and chemistry with whoever I pair myself with and ultimately what I really think is what the other guy wants. Sometimes they’ve tried to top me simply cause like me, they’re always forced onto that role… Only for me to take the wheel away from them and watch them get excited as I take control and let them enjoy the ride instead of letting them do the driving.
And the sometimes, I’ll meet someone that does all of those things for me and makes me melt onto them and I’ll turn into the most willing bottom they could meet.
Topping and bottoming doesn’t end at sex though. There’s emotional tops and emotional bottoms.
I tend to be the big spoon, the one that wants to protect and defend and hold. I’m sort of an emotional top. But when I get to be the little spoon and is able to make me feel safe and happy then I’m in heaven too.
So yeah I’m 100 percent versatile, everything else depends on chemistry.
I hope this answers your question.
Seriously guys, this.
That is a lot of beef!
Reblogged from andhowdoyoudo
the worst thing about speaking two languages is trying to use an expression from one language that fits perfectly into your conversation but the other person won’t get it
i dont speak two languages but i speak fandom so i sort of get this